Many people think that happiness comes from outside things, but in reality, YOU can create your own happiness.
Have you ever thought to yourself, “If I just had _______, I would be happy”? Or maybe you’ve said, “When I reach my goal of _______, then I’ll be really happy”. This is a really common thought pattern for a lot of people. We think that our happiness depends on certain things happening, such as a promotion at work, a new boyfriend, or fitting into a smaller pants size. We work towards these things and give them a lot of effort, and then when we finally get the new boyfriend or lose 20 lbs or get promoted we look around and realize that we still aren’t happy. What’s up with that!?
If you have found yourself using these thought patterns, it’s time to make a switch. Listen to me very carefully now.
There is no outside thing/person/situation in this world that can make you happy. Only YOU can make you happy.
Happiness is an idea, a state of being that comes and goes. We control how happy we are inside of our own heads. Our thoughts determine our happiness. Our thoughts determine everything! Here are some simple ways to change your thoughts and create more happiness in your life.
Practice Being Happy.
Fake it til you make it. Believe it until you receive it. Any way you’d like to word it, it comes down to this: Pretend that you ARE happy, and happiness will come to you. This might sound really obvious to you, but it really is this simple, and so many of us don’t practice being happy. If you spend your time complaining or feeling sorry for yourself, you won’t find happiness.
Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the current moment. Like, REALLY present. Focus on what you feel, see, hear, smell, and enjoy your situation fully. Often our unhappiness stems from living in the past, or worrying about the future. If you can try to stay in the present, it will be much easier to be happy. Mindfulness techniques can be learned in many different books or phone apps, as this technique has recently gained popularity.
Practicing gratitude is something that anyone can do, and most of us don’t do enough. The thing is, that even on your worst day, you should be able to name something that you are grateful for. Something as small as the fact that you had a good breakfast, or that the bus came on time can be what you’re grateful for, it doesn’t need to be anything big. Understanding the good things that you have and writing them down or saying them out loud will remind you that you have things to be happy about!